So you’ve made the tough and necessary decision to postpone, cancelled or Re-scheduled wedding. While it’s normal to feel bummed with how things turned out, the tough reality is that more things needed to be done to tie things up nicely. Of course, we understand that this might be the last thing you want to do after making the hard choice about your big day, but taking action now can make your life easier once you’ve picked up your plans again. To help you out, we have created a mini checklist that you can use as a guide to making things easier for you.
Get rid of the most headache-inducing part of your canceled or re-scheduled wedding by tackling your vendor contracts. Review their policies on postponement or cancellation of services and create a simple spreadsheet where you can put down all their terms so it’s easy for you to review.
See how much you will possibly be liable to pay. Once you have a view of the big picture, do the leg work by contacting each of them and see if there are possible adjustments that you can do which can benefit both sides. For example, ask them if they can still accommodate you on a new date without incurring a full new cost.
Now, don’t forget to be fair when discussing new terms with your vendors. Remember that these people are relying on their business for a living and that their operations have also been hit hard by the pandemic. It’s okay to negotiate, but make sure that they are not on the losing end for the adjustments that you will propose.
When it comes to payments, for example, you can offer to pay them a portion of the full price of their services (if they are open to moving the schedule) and just settle the remaining once your new plan is finalized. This way, you both win. They get paid now and secure themselves a sure client once everything goes back to normal and you get your original team—and hopefully, less financial losses.
Yes, every couple wants to get wed on a weekend where the climate is not too hot or not too cold, but tough times come with tough adjustments. Imagine all the other lovebirds who also postponed their weddings vying for a good schedule once things have lightened up—it will be a tough competition! As early as now, try to look at other less competitive slots (e.g. weekdays) which you can explore in the—hopefully—near future. Once you’ve made a decision, discuss this with your suppliers to check if they will be able to accommodate your new plans.
The same also goes to your guest list. Will there be people who will not be able to come if you do your wedding on a weekday? Should you actually take out some people from your list? Even after the quarantine is lifted, it might be a better idea to go for a smaller crowd to be on the safe side. Again, make it a point to share your plans with your guests if you’re planning to trim down the list—fingers crossed, they will be very understanding of your decision, too.
Even if some of your negotiations go on smoothly, you have to prepare yourself for some disappointments. Say your original Memphis wedding photographer cannot accommodate you on another date, you can try to negotiate another way to render their service so you don’t exactly get nothing for the price you pay them.
Create your very own pre-engagement shoot with your beau at home and strike up an agreement with them to just edit the images to make them more professional-looking for a photo album, for example. Tell the wedding guests that you took out from your list that you will be hosting a separate wedding dinner for them so they are still included in your celebrations. Chances are people will be willing to help in any way that they can if you talk it out with them properly.
Just because you had to cancel or postpone or re-scheduled wedding doesn’t mean that you will not be getting the special day that you deserve. The key is to shift your perspective from being “I’m doomed” to “This is just temporary and I can use the time to make plans for the future.” While we may have limited control of what we can do now, we have no limit of the things we can arrange now for the future.